Dear BDSM Exchange Creator...

[sandy79]

...thank you so much for making anything for me! No matter what it is, I already know that I will love it to the moon (and back)! *hugs*

Table Of Contents

A. General Preferences
B. Marvel Comics
C. Marvel Cinematic Universe
D. The Falcon And The Winter Soldier
E. Hawkeye
F. Moon Knight
G. What If…?
H. Star Wars Original Trilogy
I. Star Wars Prequel Trilogy
J. Star Wars Sequel Trilogy

General Preferences
most of them fit both fics and fanart, though I have written them for writers

DO NOT WANT

- Non-canonical character death (especially, of course, in the pairings I requested, but also in general) - temporary character death is okay, but the "dead" character should be back with the others in the end (or at least the way back should begin to be paved)

- Funerals (comes from my RL abhorrence for them – too much bad emotion!) – visits to existing gravesites (with or without a heartfelt, one-sided conversation) are okay, though!

- Hurt without comfort

- Super dark!characters (accidental darkness (i.e. a character following another one in a manner that borders on stalking, but stays on the rather humorous side, especially if the followed character notices it early on and decides to play along) is okay, the same goes for using manners that are not exactly only on the good side to reach their goal ;)

- Character or ship bashing (If you can't stand a character/ship, please man up and contact the mods for a change)

- No discussion of real-life politics and the awfulness therein! The same goes for both the pandemic and the Ukraine crisis, please!

- Rape/non-con (dub-con is okay to a certain degree - if you're not sure, please reach out)

- Breakup fic (you can break them up, but bring them back together in the end)

- Characters being shown as dumb / demoted in their intelligence / reduced to being just a "tool" in someone else's belt.

- No sexual situations with underage characters. Please age them up if you want to create something with them.

- for any A/B/O tags – no characterization of omegas as “birth machines” or demoting them their basic human rights

- When writing characters with a disability (in canon/temporary) – please don’t picture that disability as a handicap (e.g. a blind character that has to completely rely on other people to get the most basic things in live done). A lot of disabled people in RL have adapted and live a wonderful, rich life like any other, so please keep that in mind.

- Another absolute No-Go for me: ANY form of racism, misogyny, discrimination because of sexual orientation, gender, religion or color (not even a trace of it, please!).

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LIKES

Smart characters!
Or (at least) being competent in what they are doing, even when they know there might be consequences (can also be used as a kink!)

Idiots in Love!
Which means for me the characters are pining for each other without knowing the other's true feelings, and usually realize it later on (with or without some helping hands!)

Everybody's Alive!
Most of my fandoms have their share of sad-ending relationships (in any flavor), so if you can give me some happy ending, with nobody dying (as noted above, temporary deaths are okay), and with as much fluff as you can, I'm (more than) good!

Romance Tropes!
I'm pretty much game for almost all of them XD (if written in a good way), but I have kind of a soft spot for the following: friends with benefits (that might evolve into something more serious), slight jealousy/possessiveness (not over the top display, please, but simple gestures/words are okay - as long as both partners can laugh about it afterwards, you're good), Cuddling (works also on the friendship front), Misunderstandings (as long as they are clarified and don't drive a wedge between the characters), Fake Dating (that evolves into real dating), Fake Marriage, A/B/O (in a way that doesn't display omegas as birthing machines only/demotes them to humans with no rights whatsoever), Bed Sharing (both at the beginning of a love relationship or friendship), Meet-Cutes (and Meet-Uglys that get turned around)

AUs!
Don't get me wrong, I love my fandoms just right as they are (in terms of setting/time and all that jazz), but I love reading about the characters in a different time/setting. Favorites include: Space AU, Modern AU (for any fandom that's usually set in an earlier time frame - vice versa for any modern setting fandom), Band AU

Working relationships!
In a way where the characters have managed to have an established relationship while working in the same field (for example cops, or FBI agents), probably despite the misgivings of their bosses, but now they have to live with the "consequences" aka the emotions that threaten to take them over when the other half is in a dangerous situation (and yes, they know each other better, but especially when one of them is known for reckless behavior, they can't help but worry, most of the time to the slight amusement of their colleagues)

Case fics!
Be it within the lines of the established fandom setting or in an AU, a clever written case, with some unexpected twists and turns and some mystery (that isn't too difficult to explain in the end), is very welcomed and enjoyed at this place!

Smut!
As I love to write whenever something like this letter comes up - I'm a big girl, so don't hesitate to go as smutty as you are comfortable with! First times are as perfect as new sides in an established relationship - as long as the characters are happy afterwards, I'm as well! For Artists: don't be afraid to show certain bits (both boys and girls) ;)

Crossovers & Fusions!
I usually request this in signups only if I have a slot free, but I’m always open for crossovers (even with fandoms I’m not so familiar with XD). The same goes for fusions (e.g. Neal Caffrey being an MI-6 agent like James Bond, maybe meeting him).

Music!
I'm a music aficionado at heart (with a heavy preference for music up until the early 1990's), a huge Bon Jovi fan, but if you can incorporate any song out there, feel free to broaden my horizon, so to speak. I also never say no to any kind/variation of Band AU/Musician AU.

Strong Female Characters!
That’s something that turned up on my radar rather recently XD I love independent characters in general, but there’s something about it in combo with a female character. And if they have a so-called “weak” moment, it’s either because they chose it themselves, or that they feel comfortable enough in the company of others to let their guard down.

There's definitely more to these lists, but these are my absolute favorites (or dislikes). And I repeat once again: If you're not sure about anything, please don't hesitate to reach out to me via the mods.

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Fandoms

I might give you some pointers as to what I would love to see/read, but in the end, I'm open to anything you want to give me. Of course you can include any other character from the fandoms, but please keep the focus on the pairings listed ;) And the tags mentioned for a certain fandom are mostly interchangeable, so if you see something in a different fandom that would fit to your idea for what we’ve been matched on, feel free to work with it XD

Additional Tags (can be used as inspiration)

A/B/O – Omega is the Dom and Alpha is the Sub | A/B/O – Threesome with switch Beta between dom Alpha and sub Omega | AU – Character is a Professional Dom
BDSM AU – Dom and Sub are Soulmates | BDSM AU – Loyalty used as a reward | Bedroom is the only place that the dom has any dominance in the relationship | Bondage – Constrained by magical force | Bondage – Handcuffed to bed | Bondage – Tied to a Chair
clothed dom naked sub | Collar – leather collar/choker | Corsetry
Dom makes sub orgasm repeatedly | Dom shows off sex toy collection to sub | Dom tells sub "You're taking it so well for me" | Dom/sub – Gentle Dom
Erotic Hypnosis | established D/s relationship | Experienced Dom Character A Guides Character B Through First-Time Submission
Femdom | Fucking Machines
Handcuffs | Ice Play
Kink Discovery – sub enjoys being physically overpowered | Kink Discovery – Sub enjoys praise kink | Kink Discovery – Unexpectedly aroused by A obediently following B's nonsexual orders
Leather Culture | Leather Kink
Oral Sex (Dom performs on Sub) | Oral Sex (Sub performs on Dom)
Pegging – Dom pegs Sub | Pegging – Sub pegs Dom
Roleplay – dominant doctor and submissive patient | Roleplay – Enemy Agents (Interrogation or Secret Affair) | Roleplay – Interrogation | Roleplay – Lighthearted and Silly Ravishment Fantasy | Roleplay – Pleasure Android and Human | Roleplay – Priest and Penitent in Confessional | Roleplay – Teacher/Student
Scenario – Attending BDSM Event Undercover Leads To Discovery That They Enjoy BDSM | Scenario – BDSM scene as entertainment at party | Scenario – Maid Cafe Where Maids Must Be Topless | Scenario – Sex Cafe/Restaurant Specializing In Submissive Training/Conditioning | Sensation Play | Sensory Deprivation | Sex Toys – Dom uses "Special" Sex Toy on sub to Soothe and/or Reward | Sex toys – Dom uses magical sex toys on sub | Shibari | Smut – Dom eats sub out until they beg for mercy | Smut – Dom has sub ride them | Smut – Fucked in handcuffs | Smut – fucked in stocks | Smut – Roleplay | Smut – Roleplay – Sex Work | Smut – Roleplay – Spoils of War | Smut – Roleplay – Teacher/Student | Smut – Size Kink – Double Penetration in One Hole | Smut – Size Kink – Femdom delights in taking her oversized sub in all the way | Smut – Size Kink – Magic Makes Sub's Holes Impossibly Stretchy | Smut – Sub enjoys praise kink | Soulmates – All Soulmates Have D/s Dynamic | Striptease (Sub stripteases for Dom) | Sub dresses in a maid costume for their dom | Sub is used as artists model | Submission – Dom Aroused by Sub's Nonsexual Obedience; Sub Aroused by Dom's Nonsexual Orders | Submissive character is normally dominant in day-to-day life | Superpowered character lets themselves be bound despite being able to break free
Undercover at Private BDSM Party | Undercover pretending to be dom and sub | Wealthy Dom has Extravagant Playroom

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Marvel Comics

I'm just getting started on the various verses, but the characters listed below are favorites, no matter if on screen or on paper ;)

Pairings
- Alexi Shostakov tops Bucky Barnes
- Bucky Barnes tops Natasha Romanov
- Logan tops Bucky Barnes
- Natasha Romanov tops Bucky Barnes
- Steve Rogers and Bucky Barnes top Natasha Romanov
- Steve Rogers and Natasha Romanov top Bucky Barnes
- Erik Lehnsherr/Charles Xavier

Additional Tags
- Blindfolds
- Clothing Kink - Leather
- Kink negotiation about adding BDSM elements to established relationship
- Male Character(s) Wear Corset
- Orgasm Control
- Orgasm Delay/Denial - Sub only allowed to come when Dom permits
- Polyamory - Dom/Dom/Sub Relationship
- Polyamory - Dom/Sub/Sub Relationship
- Polyamory - Dom/Switch/Sub Relationship
- Powerful character actually kinks really hard on being used/servicing others
- Remotely Controlled Sex Toys
- Sex Toys - Wearing Them Under Clothes
- Submission as a Display of Trust
- Topping from the Bottom
- Undercover at a Fetish Club
- Wealthy Dom enjoys spoiling sub with material gifts
- Worldbuilding - There's a reason Superheroes Only Wear Leather...
- Light Bondage
- Bondage - With Luxurious Fabrics
- Alternate Universe - BDSM

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Marvel Cinematic Universe
(was splitted in the sign-up)

I love the MCU in general, and there are probably a handful characters that I can't stand (mostly the villains). My most favorite characters are Clint Barton and Bucky Barnes, with everyone else right behind them (to a certain degree with some characters, but that's more due to storytelling). Feel free to include certain aspects from the comics as well (i.e. Clint being deaf/having to wear hearing aids, or having Lucky at his side, or Bucky taking up the mantle of Captain America). I'm pretty much open for any pairings, as long as they are working for me (or you can explain it why these two characters are perfect together). Only exceptions are: Bruce/Natasha (as teased in Age of Ultron); Steve/Sharon (as implied in Civil War), Grandmaster/Loki (this is more on the fic side, I didn't get that certain vibe from the movie); any pairings that involve any of the bad guys (like Rumlow, or Rollins), I accept past relationships here, but no present ones.

Pairings
- Bucky Barnes tops Helmut Zemo
- Bucky Barnes/Sam Wilson
- Clint Barton tops Bucky Barnes
- Clint Barton tops Natasha Romanov
- Clint Barton tops Phil Coulson
- Clint Barton/Natasha Romanov
- Clint Barton/Natasha Romanov/Phil Coulson
- Clint Barton/Phil Coulson
- Darcy Lewis tops Natasha Romanov
- Darcy Lewis tops Steve Rogers
- Natasha Romanov tops Steve Rogers
- Peggy Carter tops Steve Rogers
- Peggy Carter and Steve Rogers top Bucky Barnes
- Peggy Carter tops Steve Rogers and Bucky Barnes
- Peggy Carter/Steve Rogers
- Phil Coulson tops Clint Barton
- Riley/Sam Wilson
- Sam Wilson tops Steve Rogers and Natasha Romanov
- Shuri tops Bucky Barnes
- Solo: Clint Barton
- Steve Rogers and Bucky Barnes top Natasha Romanov
- Steve Rogers tops Bucky Barnes and Natasha Romanov
- Steve Rogers tops Any Other Avenger(s)
- Steve Rogers tops Bucky Barnes
- Steve Rogers tops Clint Barton
- Steve Rogers tops Natasha Romanov
- Steve Rogers tops Thor
- Steve Rogers tops Tony Stark
- Steve Rogers tops Yelena Belova
- Steve Rogers/Bucky Barnes
- Steve Rogers/Natasha Romanov
- Tony Stark tops Bucky Barnes
- Valkyrie tops Hulk
- Valkyrie tops Loki
- Valkyrie tops Thor
- Gamora tops Peter Quill
- James "Rhodey" Rhodes tops Tony Stark
- Pepper Potts and James "Rhodey" Rhodes top Tony Stark
- Pepper Potts tops Tony Stark
- Thor tops Bruce Banner

Additional Tags
- Blindfolds
- Clothing Kink - Leather
- Dom Agent / Sub Handler
- Dom Handler / Sub Agent
- Kink negotiation about adding BDSM elements to established relationship
- Male Character(s) Wear Corset
- Orgasm Control
- Orgasm Delay/Denial - Sub only allowed to come when Dom permits
- Polyamory - Dom/Dom/Sub Relationship
- Polyamory - Dom/Sub/Sub Relationship
- Polyamory - Dom/Switch/Sub Relationship
- Powerful character actually kinks really hard on being used/servicing others
- Remotely Controlled Sex Toys
- Sex Toys - Wearing Them Under Clothes
- Submission as a Display of Trust
- Topping from the Bottom
- Undercover at a Fetish Club
- Wealthy Dom enjoys spoiling sub with material gifts
- Worldbuilding - There's a reason Superheroes Only Wear Leather...
- Light Bondage
- Bondage - With Luxurious Fabrics
- Alternate Universe - BDSM

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The Falcon And The Winter Soldier

Along with "Moon Knight" and "Hawkeye" my current favorite among all the Disney+ shows we've got so far (confession: I love them all, but these two the most XD). I love the Bucky/Sam pairing ever since they were stuck together in "Civil War" (and became one of the best things about that movie), but here, they got to shine. Next to them, I also love Sarah, Ayo, Joaquin, and Sharon. Helmut is growing on me, but I don't want John Walker, Karli Morgenthau or Valentina around.

Pairings
- Solo: Bucky Barnes
- Sam Wilson tops Bucky Barnes
- Helmut Zemo tops Bucky Barnes

Additional Tags
- Blindfolds
- Clothing Kink - Leather
- Kink negotiation about adding BDSM elements to established relationship
- Male Character(s) Wear Corset
- Orgasm Control
- Orgasm Delay/Denial - Sub only allowed to come when Dom permits
- Powerful character actually kinks really hard on being used/servicing others
- Remotely Controlled Sex Toys
- Sex Toys - Wearing Them Under Clothes
- Submission as a Display of Trust
- Topping from the Bottom
- Undercover at a Fetish Club
- Wealthy Dom enjoys spoiling sub with material gifts
- Worldbuilding - There's a reason Superheroes Only Wear Leather...
- Light Bondage
- Bondage - With Luxurious Fabrics
- Alternate Universe - BDSM
- Kink Discovery - Competence Kink encourages Dom and sub not to hold back
- Person Everyone Think is a Sub is Actually a Dom
- Smut - Roleplay - Romance Novel Clichés

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Hawkeye

As mentioned above, one of three current favorite MCU D+ shows. Like with Bucky and Sam, I also love Hawkeye way longer than this show. Actually, Hawkeye (or better Jeremy Renner) was the reason I got into the MCU in the first place. Additionally, I love both Kate and Yelena to pieces, along with Lucky. Please refrain from using either the tracksuit mafia, Eleanor and Jack, or Wilson Fisk in your work.

Pairings
- Clint Barton tops Kate Bishop
- Maya Lopez tops Kate Bishop
- Yelena Belova tops Kate Bishop

Additional Tags
- Blindfolds
- Clothing Kink - Leather
- Kink negotiation about adding BDSM elements to established relationship
- Male Character(s) Wear Corset
- Orgasm Control
- Orgasm Delay/Denial - Sub only allowed to come when Dom permits
- Powerful character actually kinks really hard on being used/servicing others
- Remotely Controlled Sex Toys
- Sex Toys - Wearing Them Under Clothes
- Submission as a Display of Trust
- Topping from the Bottom
- Undercover at a Fetish Club
- Wealthy Dom enjoys spoiling sub with material gifts
- Worldbuilding - There's a reason Superheroes Only Wear Leather...
- Light Bondage
- Bondage - With Luxurious Fabrics
- Alternate Universe - BDSM
- Kink Discovery - Competence Kink encourages Dom and sub not to hold back
- Person Everyone Think is a Sub is Actually a Dom
- Smut - Roleplay - Romance Novel Clichés

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Moon Knight

The latest addition to my ever-growing favorites list XD Binged all 6 episodes in one evening, and was absolutely blown away by Oscar Isaac's performance. Love any of the personalities to pieces (even though Jake is definitely the scariest one of the lot XD). Feel free to have Leyla and the other personalities (Steve, Jake) pop up as well, but please no other characters.

Pairings
- Khonshu tops Marc Spector

Additional Tags
- Blindfolds
- Clothing Kink - Leather
- Kink negotiation about adding BDSM elements to established relationship
- Male Character(s) Wear Corset
- Orgasm Control
- Orgasm Delay/Denial - Sub only allowed to come when Dom permits
- Powerful character actually kinks really hard on being used/servicing others
- Remotely Controlled Sex Toys
- Sex Toys - Wearing Them Under Clothes Submission as a Display of Trust
- Topping from the Bottom
- Undercover at a Fetish Club
- Wealthy Dom enjoys spoiling sub with material gifts
- Worldbuilding - There's a reason Superheroes Only Wear Leather...
- Light Bondage
- Bondage - With Luxurious Fabrics
- Alternate Universe - BDSM
- Kink Discovery - Competence Kink encourages Dom and sub not to hold back
- Person Everyone Think is a Sub is Actually a Dom
- Smut - Roleplay - Romance Novel Clichés

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What If...?

Another great D+ series, and what I loved the most was to see some other variations of characters we've all come to love over the years. Zombie Hunter Bucky was (and is) a favorite, and another is the Captain Carter/Natasha Romanov pairing we got teased in the final episode of Season 1 (but to be honest, I was shipping them way before, thanks to a well-written fanfic)

Pairings
- Peggy Carter tops Natasha Romanov

Additional Tags
- Blindfolds
- Clothing Kink - Leather
- Kink negotiation about adding BDSM elements to established relationship
- Orgasm Control
- Orgasm Delay/Denial - Sub only allowed to come when Dom permits
- Powerful character actually kinks really hard on being used/servicing others
- Remotely Controlled Sex Toys
- Sex Toys - Wearing Them Under Clothes
- Submission as a Display of Trust
- Topping from the Bottom
- Undercover at a Fetish Club
- Wealthy Dom enjoys spoiling sub with material gifts
- Worldbuilding - There's a reason Superheroes Only Wear Leather...
- Light Bondage
- Bondage - With Luxurious Fabrics
- Alternate Universe – BDSM
- Kink Discovery - Competence Kink encourages Dom and sub not to hold back
- Person Everyone Think is a Sub is Actually a Dom
- Smut - Roleplay - Romance Novel Clichés
- Strong character gets off on being bound and helpless

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Star Wars Original Trilogy

For many many years, I wasn't really interested in the adventures from a galaxy far, far away. Sure, I saw the prequel trilogy and Episode VII on TV, but other than that - nada. I probably could have named the main characters, but nothing about any storylines. Until this January, when I finally bought the DVD's and watched all the movies. Favorites are Han, Leia and Luke, along with Lando, Chewie, R2-D2 and C-3PO, so feel free to have them pop up in any capacity as well ;)

Pairings
- Anakin Skywalker | Darth Vader & Luke Skywalker
- Leia Organa & Luke Skywalker

Additional Tags
- Blindfolds
- Clothing Kink - Leather
- Force Lightning as Electricity Play
- Male Character(s) Wear Corset
- Orgasm Control
- Orgasm Delay/Denial - Sub only allowed to come when Dom permits
- Powerful character actually kinks really hard on being used/servicing others
- Remotely Controlled Sex Toys
- Sex Toys - Wearing Them Under Clothes
- Submission as a Display of Trust
- Topping from the Bottom
- Undercover at a Fetish Club
- Wealthy Dom enjoys spoiling sub with material gifts
- Worldbuilding - There's a reason Superheroes Only Wear Leather...
- Light Bondage
- Bondage - With Luxurious Fabrics
- Alternate Universe - BDSM
- Kink Discovery - Competence Kink encourages Dom and sub not to hold back
- Person Everyone Think is a Sub is Actually a Dom
- Smut - Roleplay - Romance Novel Clichés

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Star Wars Prequel Trilogy

As mentioned above, the only trilogy I had seen until this January. And yeah, they lack a bit, especially when you compare them to the original trilogy, but still, they have their own charm and entertain quite well. Favorites are Padmé and Obi-Wan, along with our two faithful droids R2-D2 and C-3PO, Yoda and Mace. Anakin is growing on me, but please refrain from using any of the other villains (Dooku, Maul, Grievous or Palpatine).

Pairings
- Anakin Skywalker tops Padmé Amidala
- Obi-Wan Kenobi tops Padmé Amidala
- Padmé Amidala and Any Handmaiden(s) top Anakin Skywalker
- Padmé Amidala and Any Handmaiden(s) top Any Handmaiden
- Padmé Amidala tops Anakin Skywalker
- Padmé Amidala tops Any Handmaiden(s)
- Padmé Amidala tops Obi-Wan Kenobi

Additional Tags
- Blindfolds
- Clothing Kink - Leather
- Force Lightning as Electricity Play
- Kink negotiation about adding BDSM elements to established relationship
- Male Character(s) Wear Corset
- Orgasm Control
- Orgasm Delay/Denial - Sub only allowed to come when Dom permits
- Polyamory - Dom/Dom/Sub Relationship
- Polyamory - Dom/Sub/Sub Relationship
- Polyamory - Dom/Switch/Sub Relationship
- Powerful character actually kinks really hard on being used/servicing others
- Remotely Controlled Sex Toys
- Sex Toys - Wearing Them Under Clothes
- Submission as a Display of Trust
- Topping from the Bottom
- Undercover at a Fetish Club
- Wealthy Dom enjoys spoiling sub with material gifts
- Worldbuilding - There's a reason Superheroes Only Wear Leather...
- Light Bondage
- Bondage - With Luxurious Fabrics

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Star Wars Sequel Trilogy

Truth be told, this one took me a bit by surprise. Sure, I had seen "The Force Awakens" when it first aired on TV, but it didn't catch me back then. Now, with having a bit more of backstory to the characters, it finally did, and didn't let go until the end of "The Rise Of Skywalker". Favorites, next to the three "oldies" Leia, Han and Luke, are Poe, BB-8, Finn and Rey (and of course you can't forget C-3PO and R2-D2 XD), along with Lando, Rose and Amilyn. Again, please don't have Palpatine (and his followers) in your work.

Pairings
- Kylo Ren and Rey top Poe Dameron
- Poe Dameron tops Rey
- Rey and Finn top Poe Dameron
- Armitage Hux tops Kylo Ren
- Finn tops Ben Solo | Kylo Ren
- Luke Skywalker tops Ben Solo | Kylo Ren
- Phasma tops Rey
- Rey and Finn top Ben Solo | Kylo Ren
- Rey tops Ben Solo | Kylo Ren
- Rey tops Phasma
- Rose Tico tops Finn

Additional Tags
- Blindfolds
- Clothing Kink - Leather
- Force Lightning as Electricity Play
- Kink negotiation about adding BDSM elements to established relationship
- Male Character(s) Wear Corset
- Orgasm Control
- Orgasm Delay/Denial - Sub only allowed to come when Dom permits
- Polyamory - Dom/Dom/Sub Relationship
- Polyamory - Dom/Sub/Sub Relationship
- Polyamory - Dom/Switch/Sub Relationship
- Powerful character actually kinks really hard on being used/servicing others
- Remotely Controlled Sex Toys
- Sex Toys - Wearing Them Under Clothes
- Submission as a Display of Trust
- Topping from the Bottom
- Undercover at a Fetish Club
- Wealthy Dom enjoys spoiling sub with material gifts
- Worldbuilding - There's a reason Superheroes Only Wear Leather...
- Light Bondage
- Bondage - With Luxurious Fabrics